Who Can I Talk to if I Don’t Trust My Family?

Who Can I Talk to if I Don’t Trust My Family?

If an addict isolates himself from family, then he may not know who can help with overcoming addiction

Some addicts are lucky to have a strong support system that pushes them to better lifestyles and to strong recoveries. However, other drug addicts may feel isolated and alone due to the lack of support from both their loved ones and families, so they may end up increasing their use of oxycodone solely to numb their pain. For drug addicts who believe they cannot trust their family members or friends to help them get and stay clean, and even for drug addicts who want some additional support, they may increase their chances for recovery if they learn which options are available to them.

Maybe an addict lost trust in her family when she reached out about a past trauma and her loved ones refused to validate her feelings; maybe another addict broke her loved one’s trust by lying, stealing or refusing to acknowledge the boundaries that her loved ones set. Either way, trust issues may exist right now between the addict and her loved ones, but, if either party desires a relationship, then there is hope, especially with professional support.

What if I Do Not Trust My Family to Encourage Addiction Recovery?

Many people overlook trust until it is broken or absent. It can take years to build a solid foundation of trust between people, yet only one incident can tear it down completely. Family structures are also unique in that trust is often constant and established until someone breaks it. People may break trust with a traumatic experience, such as mental, physical or sexual abuse, but it may also occur if someone shares another person’s private information or abandons a loved one at a desperate time. Such breaks in trust can cause someone to isolate himself, avoid family events and even limit communication with his loved ones. However, addicts who distrust their family members can still talk to trusted people if they seek any of the following sources:

  • Counselor or doctor
  • Church counseling
  • Support groups

Due to the lack of trust, many addicts feel unable to communicate safely, effectively and without criticism. In short, drug addicts often think they cannot talk with or discuss important issues with their loved ones. As a result, drugs addicts who unaware of their treatment options find solace in their addictions, which means that the problems with trust never improve. However, by speaking to a healthcare provider (such as a medical doctor or even a counselor), addicts can express their concerns without worrying that their words will be overheard or passed on to other people. Additionally, if a drug addict attends church, then she may be able to schedule a counseling session there, where the same rules of confidentiality apply. All medical and psychiatric services consent to the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act, which protects an individual’s personal health information from being given out to others, so you can trust these sources implicitly[1].

How Can I Repair Trust with My Family?

It takes time to repair anything that has been broken, especially a relationship and even if only a single event broke trust. Relationships that are meaningful to the addict are important to repair for numerous reasons, and, by repairing these relationships, both the addict and his loved ones can experience these benefits. You may start repairing relationships that lack trust in any of the following ways:

  • Communicate
  • Get involved in treatment
  • Take ownership of your problems

Relationships often fail due to poor communication. If you know how to communicate effectively about your fears, worries, regrets, hopes, dreams and goals, then you can reestablish the bond that first brought you and your loved ones together. This communication can be verbal, written or any other form that helps the addict and her loved one express themselves freely. For this process to work, both parties must be willing to speak and to listen to each another.

If an addict has sought professional treatment, then chances are that the trust issues between loved ones will be discussed with her counselor. During this time, the counselor may allow the addict to involve loved ones in some of the sessions, as they can all discuss trust issues in a controlled environment. During these discussions, both the addict and her loved one will be expected to take ownership of their actions that led to the trust issues between each another. Both the addict and her loved ones must be open to communicate for the process to work. It may take months or even years before trust is fully restored, but rushing the process can worsen the division and even strain the relationship to the breaking point.

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If you struggle with oxycodone addiction and, due to family issues, feel isolated, alone and as though you have no one to rely on, then please call our toll-free helpline today. Our admissions coordinators are available 24 hours a day to answer your questions and to help you find the best treatment available. It only takes that one call to change a life, so call us today for instant, professional support!


[1] http://www.hhs.gov/hipaa/for-individuals/guidance-materials-for-consumers/index.html, Your Rights Under HIPAA, Office of Civil Rights, 01/02/2016.